Embracing the Scars of Your Journey

There are weeks that many of us want to cross out and forget about. There are moments that we wish we could redo, words that we hope we could delete from existence, and thoughts and opinions that we wish didn’t affect us so deeply. I know I have days where I wish I could press rewind and redo years of my life. Is this healthy? No. Is this possible? Not at all. So how do we move forward from here? How do we be okay with the journey and the good, the bad and the ugly that comes with it?

Recognize the Scars

We all have scars. I am not talking about the physical scars that we may have from scraping our knees or becoming over-enthusiastic while chopping vegetables. I am talking about scars that can’t be seen by anyone else but ourselves and God. If these scars could have names they may be unforgiveness, abandonment, judgment, criticism, depression, fear, self-criticism, hate and the list can continue. Even though we may have also experienced love, community, forgiveness, happiness, grace, acceptance and complete joy, isn’t it so much easier to focus on the tough times rather than the good? If this doesn’t apply to you, that’s awesome! But if it does, then welcome to the club; there is room for you.

Now, I am not going to turn this blog into a self-help tool (there are far too many books and blogs that do this so well), but I instead want to share what the Holy Spirit revealed to me at The Collective on a warm Sunday night in August, during worship.

“These scars are my story; they are a roadmap of my life. They tell the journey that I have been on, but they also show the healing that has gone on in my life.

They are a reminder of who God is and His goodness. Just as the Israelites marked the path that God took them on in the wilderness; just as they erected monuments and changed the names of the places they went to because God showed them His mercy, these scars are my roadmap. They are my story. They are my testimony.

I may forget the healing and only see the scars, but I pray that God will show me the story, reveal the journey, and remind me of how He changed the landscape of the lowest valley’s so that I could be lifted up and be given a new path to walk on.”

Leave Them in the Past

The interesting thing about scars is that even though the wound is healed, we can still remember the pain that came with them. We cannot forget the moment that the injury was created and how difficult it was waiting for the healing to begin. They say that time heals all wounds, which is true to an extent but it doesn’t eliminate the memory of the pain and suffering. It is so easy to let these scars of our past dictate the journey that we take in the future.

-Has your heart been broken? Then never open it up to love again.

-Have a difficult relationship with your dad? Then your relationship with God won’t be any better.

-Can’t trust anyone? Then live life alone and without community.

These are just a few examples of how past scars can still carry hurt with them and even “scar” our view of the future.

Real courage is when we can walk forward in our journey, despite the past. Yes, the journey can suck. Yes, we can be frustrated by our past and the scars that we have collected over the years, but the good news is that these scars can become our testimony. They can become an epic story of how God brought healing and forgiveness, and turned these scars into lessons of how to truly love and care for ourselves and those around us.

God never promised us that life would be easy, but He did promise us that it would be worth it. It’s time that we start to believe that promise.

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”– John 16:33


Cool God Moment: As I was editing this blog, Scars by I AM THEY began to play on Spotify. Jesus has scars, and those scars show of His incredible gift to us. We don’t have to worry about our past because God took it all.

Listen to it here: